“Oh simple thing, where have you gone? I’m getting older and I need something to rely on.”

Somewhere Only We Know - Keane

You know when you hear a trending audio on Instagram and listen to the words and you’re just like…. that hits… that hits me hard. That is what I felt when I heard a new version of “Somewhere Only We Know” and it really got me thinking about…. women and aging. LOL not what you expected? Me neither… but here we are!

Women and aging - what a topic! The song Somewhere Only We Know had me thinking about this newly discovered importance I’ve realized between harnessing my pure femininity and the natural creativity that moves within me. I do believe females are inherently creative. I used to tell myself I wasn’t creative, that I was more of a logistical thinker, someone who needed a checklist and structure. Then I started to actually do - and create things. Lowe and behold! Once I started to actually DO something creative, I started thinking more creatively, speaking more creatively, producing more creatively and ultimately… I became more confident in identifying with being a creative person.

As women age in this modern western world, there are certain paths she can choose to take. One of those paths is marriage, becoming a wife and ultimately a mother. The “traditional way” some may say. This the path I’m seeking. When I look at others around me walking down this path, I sometimes hear women say that they’ve lost themselves. They say they’ve become so detached from society because they’ve had tunnel vision while raising their family and they feel they need to go out and seek something external - something they can call their own. Sometimes women seek this out when their kids are grown and out of the house. This older age is when I see women really looking for that purpose, maybe they’ve become empty nesters and it’s understandable. I just don’t want that to happen to me. I want to get in front of it.

I want to set something up for myself that I can depend on NOW and have with me as I move along through womanhood. I want something I can do from home, so by the time I am ready to have kids, I will already have my “thing,” my joy, my escape and my independence. A skill that I can one day share with my kids and even include them in the process all while staying in the home, being my own boss and generating what I need to for my some-day family.

This is what sewing is for me. Something that is so special to me and brings excitement and fulfillment. Sewing, an ancient skill that has been around for thousands of years. This is my simple thing. I believe all women need a simple thing in their life. Something that feels familiar and they can come back to when they just need something to rely on.